OLDER WOMEN IN MARRIAGES
IS IT RIGHT FOR A WOMAN TO MARRY A MAN THAT SHE IS SOME YEARS OLDER THAN?
Hmmmm… MANY PEOPLE WILL HAVE DIFFERENT VIEWS ON THIS BUT I WOULD SAY “YES” WITH THE FOLLOWING REASONS.
MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGES- PART 5
GUIDING SINGLES (SSS) TO MAKE RIGHT CHOICES IN MARRIAGES.
FIXING CRACKS AND DISLOCATIONS IN AFFAIRS.
REMY UMOH- COAH
In the science of marriage, the idea of women marrying younger men is becoming more conventional, but its acceptability has been strongly criticized.
Apparently it is common in the western world, but a big deal in some places in the third world nations. My question is: what is actually wrong with such a union? Does the Bible support such marriage?
Is there any guarantee for success in such a union? However, in regard to age differences between couples in marriage, what is the ideal? Is there any standard to follow in regard to age differences among couples? Does age really change anything or affect anything?
Many would want to say that God created man first, and that should be a precedence we must follow in marriage. Yes, God created the man first and He made him the head of the family. But if I may ask, what is the age difference between Adam and Eve. I guess you cannot be so sure, and I believe God did not create any other thing after the sixth day. Therefore, Adam and Eve could have been created the same day because Adam did not give birth to Eve; she was created from his ribs; all on the sixth day.
In our contemporary society, it is a generally accepted norm that men should be older than their wives in many years; why? What should be the age difference between them? No specific age difference? However, my focus actually is to create a balance here and to help those who are in such relationships where the woman is older than the man to actually gain pride and value at the expense of vulnerability.
Several relationships where the woman is older than the man - especially in Africa- are facing rejections, oppositions, and mockery because people feel such relationships are against norms, and they should not be accepted.
In fact, some people sees it as a 'taboo' But if you think you feel good with such relationship, isn't it still good to wait a minute to count the cost?
Please don't get it twisted; I do not say it is bad for a woman to marry a younger man, but I think it is advisable for both parties to critically count the cost first. I understand that love transcends all the mockery, rejections and any ugly thing you might face, yet there is need for critical consideration.
In this kind of marriage, the man still plays the role of a husband, while the woman plays the role of a wife. No one can reverse the order. No matter the age difference, no culture, tradition or people will ever give the role of a husband to the woman because she is older.
Similarly, the man does not become the husband because he is older; he is the husband because he is the man of the house and that automatically makes him the head. Therefore, age does not determine the success of any marriage; maturity, love and understanding do. Age is just the chronological gap between the two people.
WARNINGS FOR LADIES OLDER THAN MEN IN MARRIAGES.
1. PLEASE DO NOT MARRY OUT OF FRUSTRATION OR DESPERATION: many of the women who goes into such relationships do so out of frustration and desperation. Perhaps they think they are already getting older and they may be left unmarried. As a result, they accept any man who comes their ways and who seems to be meeting their emotional needs.
My dear if you marry because of frustration or desperation, you may end up marrying a mere 'service provider' and not a loving husband. A 'service provider' is there only to meet your emotional and sexual needs. Having rendered the service for which you allow him into your life, what happens next? Think about that. Marrying out of frustration or desperation is unhealthy and it can be hazardous.
2. DO NOT GO INTO MARRIAGE FOR SEXUAL REASON ONLY: some older ladies are of the opinion that younger men will be more sexually active and romantic than older men. This may not be true in all cases anyway. Having sexual satisfaction has more to do with enlightenment and experience. It is possible for the younger man to have more strength and energy than the older one, but if he lacks the skills involved in giving sexual satisfaction, he may just expend his energy and still not satisfy her woman.
3. CAREFULLY WEIGH THE PROS AND THE CONS: no doubt, every marriage has its own challenges and monsters to conquer. However, there is need to critically and honestly consider the 'Pros' and the 'Cons' before going into such marriage. This kind of marriage has its own share of problems and its peculiarity will inevitably open it up to several challenges.
4. NEVER COMPARE HIM WITH YOUR EX: it is certain that older ladies must have been in some relationships in the past, and with each relationship comes different emotional, social or sexual experiences. Perhaps the younger man seem not to measure up with your ex or exes in some areas; it is unhealthy to compare him with them. You must be willing to accept him as he is and patiently walk with him until he could meet some of your expectations - don't expect him to meet all your expectations. That may not be realistic.
5. DO NOT TREAT HIM AS YOUR YOUNGER BROTHER; TREAT HIM AS YOUR HUSBAND: don’t under rate him or try to treat your younger man like a younger brother. He is not a younger brother as long as marriage is concern. Though the age gap may be vast, but when it comes to marriage, the man assumes the responsibility of the head.
Regardless of the age difference between both of you, he deserves respect and adoration from you. You must be submissive to him as a matter of necessity, so that both of you can have a blissful marriage.
Finally, before you dive into this marriage, you must remember that there are prices to pay, challenges to face, things to endure, and as you know, the Bible does not support divorce under any circumstances except for marital unfaithfulness. Therefore, critically count the cost, be sure your man is ready and willing to stay with you and remain faithful to your marital vows.
#MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGES- PART 5
(All Rights Reserved).
Whatsapp @ +2348064355781
#REMY UMOH- COACH.
Hmmmm… MANY PEOPLE WILL HAVE DIFFERENT VIEWS ON THIS BUT I WOULD SAY “YES” WITH THE FOLLOWING REASONS.
MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGES- PART 5
GUIDING SINGLES (SSS) TO MAKE RIGHT CHOICES IN MARRIAGES.
FIXING CRACKS AND DISLOCATIONS IN AFFAIRS.
REMY UMOH- COAH
In the science of marriage, the idea of women marrying younger men is becoming more conventional, but its acceptability has been strongly criticized.
Apparently it is common in the western world, but a big deal in some places in the third world nations. My question is: what is actually wrong with such a union? Does the Bible support such marriage?
Is there any guarantee for success in such a union? However, in regard to age differences between couples in marriage, what is the ideal? Is there any standard to follow in regard to age differences among couples? Does age really change anything or affect anything?
Many would want to say that God created man first, and that should be a precedence we must follow in marriage. Yes, God created the man first and He made him the head of the family. But if I may ask, what is the age difference between Adam and Eve. I guess you cannot be so sure, and I believe God did not create any other thing after the sixth day. Therefore, Adam and Eve could have been created the same day because Adam did not give birth to Eve; she was created from his ribs; all on the sixth day.
In our contemporary society, it is a generally accepted norm that men should be older than their wives in many years; why? What should be the age difference between them? No specific age difference? However, my focus actually is to create a balance here and to help those who are in such relationships where the woman is older than the man to actually gain pride and value at the expense of vulnerability.
Several relationships where the woman is older than the man - especially in Africa- are facing rejections, oppositions, and mockery because people feel such relationships are against norms, and they should not be accepted.
In fact, some people sees it as a 'taboo' But if you think you feel good with such relationship, isn't it still good to wait a minute to count the cost?
Please don't get it twisted; I do not say it is bad for a woman to marry a younger man, but I think it is advisable for both parties to critically count the cost first. I understand that love transcends all the mockery, rejections and any ugly thing you might face, yet there is need for critical consideration.
In this kind of marriage, the man still plays the role of a husband, while the woman plays the role of a wife. No one can reverse the order. No matter the age difference, no culture, tradition or people will ever give the role of a husband to the woman because she is older.
Similarly, the man does not become the husband because he is older; he is the husband because he is the man of the house and that automatically makes him the head. Therefore, age does not determine the success of any marriage; maturity, love and understanding do. Age is just the chronological gap between the two people.
WARNINGS FOR LADIES OLDER THAN MEN IN MARRIAGES.
1. PLEASE DO NOT MARRY OUT OF FRUSTRATION OR DESPERATION: many of the women who goes into such relationships do so out of frustration and desperation. Perhaps they think they are already getting older and they may be left unmarried. As a result, they accept any man who comes their ways and who seems to be meeting their emotional needs.
My dear if you marry because of frustration or desperation, you may end up marrying a mere 'service provider' and not a loving husband. A 'service provider' is there only to meet your emotional and sexual needs. Having rendered the service for which you allow him into your life, what happens next? Think about that. Marrying out of frustration or desperation is unhealthy and it can be hazardous.
2. DO NOT GO INTO MARRIAGE FOR SEXUAL REASON ONLY: some older ladies are of the opinion that younger men will be more sexually active and romantic than older men. This may not be true in all cases anyway. Having sexual satisfaction has more to do with enlightenment and experience. It is possible for the younger man to have more strength and energy than the older one, but if he lacks the skills involved in giving sexual satisfaction, he may just expend his energy and still not satisfy her woman.
3. CAREFULLY WEIGH THE PROS AND THE CONS: no doubt, every marriage has its own challenges and monsters to conquer. However, there is need to critically and honestly consider the 'Pros' and the 'Cons' before going into such marriage. This kind of marriage has its own share of problems and its peculiarity will inevitably open it up to several challenges.
4. NEVER COMPARE HIM WITH YOUR EX: it is certain that older ladies must have been in some relationships in the past, and with each relationship comes different emotional, social or sexual experiences. Perhaps the younger man seem not to measure up with your ex or exes in some areas; it is unhealthy to compare him with them. You must be willing to accept him as he is and patiently walk with him until he could meet some of your expectations - don't expect him to meet all your expectations. That may not be realistic.
5. DO NOT TREAT HIM AS YOUR YOUNGER BROTHER; TREAT HIM AS YOUR HUSBAND: don’t under rate him or try to treat your younger man like a younger brother. He is not a younger brother as long as marriage is concern. Though the age gap may be vast, but when it comes to marriage, the man assumes the responsibility of the head.
Regardless of the age difference between both of you, he deserves respect and adoration from you. You must be submissive to him as a matter of necessity, so that both of you can have a blissful marriage.
Finally, before you dive into this marriage, you must remember that there are prices to pay, challenges to face, things to endure, and as you know, the Bible does not support divorce under any circumstances except for marital unfaithfulness. Therefore, critically count the cost, be sure your man is ready and willing to stay with you and remain faithful to your marital vows.
#MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGES- PART 5
(All Rights Reserved).
Whatsapp @ +2348064355781
#REMY UMOH- COACH.
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