MOTHERS IN MARRIAGES
MY MOTHER IN-LAW IS A WITCH; Jemima Cried.
Tale of a Nigerian Wife.
10 REASONS WHY MOTHERS AND MOTHER IN-LAWS ARE COMMONLY SEEN OR ACCUSED OF WITCHCRAFT THAN FATHERS IN MARRIAGES.
MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGES. PART 6
#KEEPING THE (SSS) INFORMED ABOUT MARITAL CONFLICTS.
REMY UMOH- Coach.
My study of hundreds of families in Nigeria has revealed that nearly two-thirds of married women complain they've suffered long-term unhappiness and stress because of friction with their husband's mothers and many suspects them to be witches.
QUESTIONS TO PONDER ON:
1.Does it really mean that all mothers and mother in-laws that are called witches in marriages are actually possessed of witchcraft?
2. Can a particular character make one to be seen as a witch even if she is not really a witch spiritually?
3. Why is it that, fathers are hardly called wizards, compared to the way mothers and mother in-laws are seen as witches in marriages?
Anyway, let me delve a few points before I dish out real facts.
What is witchcraft?
This could be seen as the use of sorcery or magic, communication with the devil or the use of supernatural powers to predict an event. One who uses mystic items to perform magical practices? Also note that a wizard could be one who is specially skilled in a particular field of study. Like in computer science wizard; usage differs.
In view of the above definition, Most Africans don’t know the real meaning of witchcraft. The moment they hear the word witch, the first thing they will think about is the dark aura and wicked attributes.
Most gullible thinkers tend to shift their failures and misfortunes in life to witches and wizards; this in turn exalts this universal and makes them feel powerful, meanwhile they are actually powerless to those that believe in God.
REASONS:
1. POVERTY: Poverty they say is a disease. It can make one vulnerable and reduce self-esteem. Most daughter in-laws don’t respect their mother in-laws if they are poor. They will go and wait for the rich mother in-law to land at the airport but if she is a type that is landing with Ghana must go at the park, they will stay at home and give description to one black gate in their neighborhood before the green gate where they live. It takes God fearing daughter in-law to respect their mother in-laws now irrespective of their status and societal relevance.
2. HATRED- Some mother in-laws are naturally wicked; such that no matter what the daughter in-law does, they will not see anything good. Such mother in-law is not in the same bloodline with the daughter in-law and can be accused of witchcraft.
3. RELIGIOUS AFFILIATIONS- Some mother in-laws are seriously addicted to religious practices and assignments in all these Christian worship shops around town. Some will even carry fetish things to their son’s house in the name of assignment, and this can make the daughter in-law to start suspecting them of witchcraft incase anything befalls the family. Most mothers do this when the daughter in-law is barren.
4. JEALOUSY- It's normal that mothers get to be a little jealous when another woman comes to collect their sons which they have always held very close to their hearts, and wives are supposed to understand, show them love and also let them know that together they will build one big happy family rather than suspecting them of witchcraft.
5. ARROGANCE- Bad temperament can make you breach the patience of your daughter in-law and this can lead to chaos.
6. DOMINEERING INFLUENCE/ ILLITERACY- many mothers want to still have control of their children’s matrimony and this can cause suspicion. They break the parental limits and tend to dig into their privacy in a wrong way. Mother in-laws that are illiterates don’t always encourage their sons and wives to send their children to good and expensive schools because they have not been there and sees such education as economic waste.
7. CURIOSITY- many mothers are too curious and inquisitive, and can intrude into the affairs of their son and daughter in-laws. Some wants to know everything in that home and this can bring conflict and suspicion.
8. EXTORTION- some mothers and mother in-laws are wasteful. They can recess the children’s family economy in a few minutes if they are given the chance. They will visit their children’s matrimonial home and the next thing they will start calling all relatives to come and eat; not considering the pulse of their children in terms of food bank and finance.
9. DEFORMITY- I know this is funny though, but some daughter in-laws can easily see their mother in-laws as witches by the way they look.
10. GIRL CHILD HUMILIATION- some mothers humiliates and disgraces their daughters in an abysmal way, on the grounds that they are not married on time. Perpetual attack on their shortcomings can raise suspicion.
Mothers, if you have any of these bad qualities, you may be a witch or accused of witchcraft even when you are not. Fathers doesn’t have much problem and hardly intrude in their children’s marital affairs. Remember, all wives are potential mother in-laws as well. Take good care of your mothers and mother in-laws so that your daughter in-law won’t do same to you.
#MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGE.
(All Rights Reserved)
#RemyUmoh-Coach
Tale of a Nigerian Wife.
10 REASONS WHY MOTHERS AND MOTHER IN-LAWS ARE COMMONLY SEEN OR ACCUSED OF WITCHCRAFT THAN FATHERS IN MARRIAGES.
MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGES. PART 6
#KEEPING THE (SSS) INFORMED ABOUT MARITAL CONFLICTS.
REMY UMOH- Coach.
My study of hundreds of families in Nigeria has revealed that nearly two-thirds of married women complain they've suffered long-term unhappiness and stress because of friction with their husband's mothers and many suspects them to be witches.
QUESTIONS TO PONDER ON:
1.Does it really mean that all mothers and mother in-laws that are called witches in marriages are actually possessed of witchcraft?
2. Can a particular character make one to be seen as a witch even if she is not really a witch spiritually?
3. Why is it that, fathers are hardly called wizards, compared to the way mothers and mother in-laws are seen as witches in marriages?
Anyway, let me delve a few points before I dish out real facts.
What is witchcraft?
This could be seen as the use of sorcery or magic, communication with the devil or the use of supernatural powers to predict an event. One who uses mystic items to perform magical practices? Also note that a wizard could be one who is specially skilled in a particular field of study. Like in computer science wizard; usage differs.
In view of the above definition, Most Africans don’t know the real meaning of witchcraft. The moment they hear the word witch, the first thing they will think about is the dark aura and wicked attributes.
Most gullible thinkers tend to shift their failures and misfortunes in life to witches and wizards; this in turn exalts this universal and makes them feel powerful, meanwhile they are actually powerless to those that believe in God.
REASONS:
1. POVERTY: Poverty they say is a disease. It can make one vulnerable and reduce self-esteem. Most daughter in-laws don’t respect their mother in-laws if they are poor. They will go and wait for the rich mother in-law to land at the airport but if she is a type that is landing with Ghana must go at the park, they will stay at home and give description to one black gate in their neighborhood before the green gate where they live. It takes God fearing daughter in-law to respect their mother in-laws now irrespective of their status and societal relevance.
2. HATRED- Some mother in-laws are naturally wicked; such that no matter what the daughter in-law does, they will not see anything good. Such mother in-law is not in the same bloodline with the daughter in-law and can be accused of witchcraft.
3. RELIGIOUS AFFILIATIONS- Some mother in-laws are seriously addicted to religious practices and assignments in all these Christian worship shops around town. Some will even carry fetish things to their son’s house in the name of assignment, and this can make the daughter in-law to start suspecting them of witchcraft incase anything befalls the family. Most mothers do this when the daughter in-law is barren.
4. JEALOUSY- It's normal that mothers get to be a little jealous when another woman comes to collect their sons which they have always held very close to their hearts, and wives are supposed to understand, show them love and also let them know that together they will build one big happy family rather than suspecting them of witchcraft.
5. ARROGANCE- Bad temperament can make you breach the patience of your daughter in-law and this can lead to chaos.
6. DOMINEERING INFLUENCE/ ILLITERACY- many mothers want to still have control of their children’s matrimony and this can cause suspicion. They break the parental limits and tend to dig into their privacy in a wrong way. Mother in-laws that are illiterates don’t always encourage their sons and wives to send their children to good and expensive schools because they have not been there and sees such education as economic waste.
7. CURIOSITY- many mothers are too curious and inquisitive, and can intrude into the affairs of their son and daughter in-laws. Some wants to know everything in that home and this can bring conflict and suspicion.
8. EXTORTION- some mothers and mother in-laws are wasteful. They can recess the children’s family economy in a few minutes if they are given the chance. They will visit their children’s matrimonial home and the next thing they will start calling all relatives to come and eat; not considering the pulse of their children in terms of food bank and finance.
9. DEFORMITY- I know this is funny though, but some daughter in-laws can easily see their mother in-laws as witches by the way they look.
10. GIRL CHILD HUMILIATION- some mothers humiliates and disgraces their daughters in an abysmal way, on the grounds that they are not married on time. Perpetual attack on their shortcomings can raise suspicion.
Mothers, if you have any of these bad qualities, you may be a witch or accused of witchcraft even when you are not. Fathers doesn’t have much problem and hardly intrude in their children’s marital affairs. Remember, all wives are potential mother in-laws as well. Take good care of your mothers and mother in-laws so that your daughter in-law won’t do same to you.
#MMM- MISTAKES MADE IN MARRIAGE.
(All Rights Reserved)
#RemyUmoh-Coach
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